Unexpected
Even though we live with an expectation that certain things will happen in certain ways, the reality is that there is a real possibility that something unexpected may happen. Actually the unexpected happens probably more frequently that we are aware, it is just that over time we have become better able at managing the potential upset in our lives.
We all certainly know that driving results in multiple occurrences of unexpected events sometimes within only a few feet of just a few seconds. It is our skill or our ability to manage these unexpected events that enables us to avoid crisis. Yet as I am sure you must be aware, it isn’t possible to avoid all unfortunate eventualities. We are not really able to control all the things that arise in our lives.
Sometimes while in the process of managing the unexpected we may do well in the physical aspects but be unable to manage the emotional parts. An example, again going back to driving, we may avoid running into the rear end of a car but be unable to avoid loosing our temper. At other times we may manage our emotions but be incapable of handling the physical aspects. Think of a time when you were so frustrated, you held in your frustration but you couldn’t concentrate enough to perform a particular function. You might be able to avoid getting mad at someone but you also are unable to communicate your thoughts because you are afraid you will become angry and say something harmful.
“I never dreamed of having this store of treasures myself. It has come to me unexpectedly.” (Lotus Sutra, Chapter IV)
How often do we choose to look at the unexpected things in our lives as opportunities for growth and personal development? In the case of the unexpected actions of another driver, for example, we might choose to look at it as a wake up to drive a tad bit more cautiously and be prepared for other unexpected actions, rather than a personal affront to ourselves.
Every thing that occurs in our lives offers us a chance to make a choice of how we will respond. But we only have that choice apparent if we have the patience to examine the situation carefully and not from anger.
“I am the King of the Dharma. I have the great power of patience and the treasury of wisdom. I save all living beings in the world by the Dharma out of my great compassion towards them.” (Lotus Sutra, Chapter XIV)
When we have the power of patience, even in the face of the unexpected we can call forth our innate Buddha wisdom and have compassion. This wisdom and compassion will allow us the ability to show others the way to living an enlightened life. We can not lead people to happiness if we ourselves are unhappy, angry, impatient, vengeful, or other negative ways.
